#BreastfeedingStories Featuring Beauty Baby and Me


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Welcome back to the #BreastfeedingStories guest post series, an opportunity to bring together stories from other mums who have breastfeeding experiences that they would like to share.

This weeks guest post features Fi from Beauty Baby and Me who shares her story about the reality breastfeeding and how important it is to remove the rose tinted glasses.

So, breastfeeding. Everyone’s favourite controversial subject! Every one of us mummies that has made the decision to breastfeed has their own experiences, and it certainly isn’t always what we expected. So I wanted to share our experience and story, which I hope provides some reassurance to those of you who might be struggling or frustrated with it all.

I went to NCT classes before Josh was born and one session was entirely dedicated to breastfeeding. Great I thought. Breastfeeding was something really important to me; it was something I knew I wanted to do but was conscious of the difficulties that can occur and I was very paranoid I wouldn’t be able to do it. The class was very helpful but, honestly, it painted a very pretty picture. It made it all sound quite easy… we were shown some videos about the placement of baby and how they should latch and it was all made to sound incredibly natural, like the baby would pop out and crawl up to your breast and you’d be away.

Now, whether they showed us all this to promote the positives of breastfeeding in attempt to diminish any worries we had about it I don’t know. I do know all us girls left thinking “OK, this shouldn’t be too difficult”.

Of course the challenges didn’t start until our babies arrived. Thank God for one of my best friends drumming into me the importance of getting the baby checked for tongue tie as soon as he was born, because this was not something that wasn’t really brought up in the NCT classes which is ridiculous because it is so common. Fortunately I asked for Josh to be checked for it the day after he was born and sure enough he had tongue tie. Confusingly I was told at first it was very mild, but a week when later when it was snipped, the doctor told me it was quite severe. I was so lucky I only had a week of enduring it before having it dealt with, because a lot of women have a far longer wait and the honest truth is, it is absolute agony! We had a good first two days of breastfeeding before the pain started, but by day three, I’m not going to sugar coat it, it was agony. My nipples were cracked, and bloody and I took to either wearing  one of my husbands shirts, or rocking the topless look, because I didn’t want anything touching my skin. Thank God for Lanolin cream – if you are a mummy to be buy it! It doesn’t matter how much it costs, you will thank me for it later! I remember Josh latching on and sometimes I’d be yelping in pain, but I was absolutely determined to stick at it. I knew I only had a week to get through before it would be dealt with which I think helped and I was additionally spurred on by the fact that Josh barely lost any of his birth weight. Knowing I was getting the weight on him and the milk in him got me through and sure enough once his tongue tie was fixed things improved.

But as with all babies, they like to change the goal posts at any given moment and we have had other struggles. At about 4 weeks Josh decided he wasn’t going to take off my right boob and refused it and would only take off my left boob (a title for my book maybe ha ha!). I was really struggling around this time with sleep deprivation and feeling a bit low and was in despair the morning he started this. Predictably he picked up on my upset mood and decided to cry all morning, as did I. In my desperation to sooth my ridiculously full right boob I did my first express. I was then saved by my mother in law who came over, calmed me down, tucked me in bed (like I was the baby bless her), so I caught up on sleep and she looked after Josh. When I woke up she told me she’d seen the bottle of expressed milk and given it to Josh who, thank the Lord, happily accepted it! It hadn’t even occurred to me that this could be the answer to some of my problems; the sleep deprivation and Josh being less keen on one side so I was beyond happy to discover he took the bottle with no problems. From then on, I’d express every morning and was very lucky as I could easily express a good 100ml each day. Then in the evening I’d go to bed at 8pm and Sam would stay up and give Josh the bottle at 11pm/midnight. It was officially a god send because I’d then get to sleep from 8pm through to about 2/3am when Josh would be due his next feed. I honestly don’t know how I’d have got through those first few weeks without this routine.

Now that Josh is 3 months we have changed things a bit. I now breastfeed again for a dream feed at 10/11pm and then do a night feed around 4pm and it is fine. My body has adjusted to this sleep pattern and, thankfully, Josh has stopped fussing and will take off the right boob again. Occasionally I express so Sam can give Josh a feed before bed at 6pm just to keep Josh familiar with the bottle (which I need him to be for when someone else baby sits him whilst I escape to the hairdressers, Tesco, or any opportunity for a girls night out) plus it’s nice for Sam to still get to feed him occasionally.

So as you can see we’ve had quite a journey! As has pretty much every other mummy I know. All us girls from our NCT group have endured some sort of difficulties or frustrations along the way, some more distressing than others. But we’ve also all stuck it out and persevered with breastfeeding. Some of us use bottles, or also use formula, but the main thing is we are all happy and have healthy growing babies. We’ve all had to find our own path that suits us. And I think it’s safe to say we’ve all felt a little bit disappointed that our class painted such a pretty picture of breastfeeding because for some of us, the difficulties we’ve endured where an unexpected shock. I think us mummies need to be aware that as amazing as breastfeeding is, especially when established and you’re settled down, it is also bloody hard. It comes with challenges as well as people’s strong opinions (FYI – do what is right for you and your baby. Don’t take any crap from people pressuring you or forcing unnecessary opinions on you!!! This is SO important. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty if you choose to bottle feed; it is no one else’s business other than you and your baby), and the daunting prospect of mastering feeding in public, if this is something you choose to do.  I’ve had a couple of occasions of staring, which is annoying as I feed very subtly and dress so that there is nothing on display as well as draping a scarf over me and Josh. Being the feisty little madam I am, I manage to ignore any disapproving looks or I just throw a good glare back if I feel at all intimidated by someone’s opinions! As I say, I’m a feisty gal so I’m not about to put up with people’s unspoken judgements!

It seems anyone and everyone has an opinion on breastfeeding these days and that can cause us Mummies, yep you guessed it, guilt. As if we don’t put enough pressure on ourselves. All I will say is be prepared, it can come with challenges but if it is what you want and you stick at it, it is so worth it Above all, do what is right for you and your baby. One of my favourite times is when I’m feeding Josh before he goes to sleep and as he feeds he looks up at me with those gorgeous big eyes; it’s just me and him and we’ve managed to do the journey together!

Thank for reading – I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences

Fi xx

If you’ve got a breastfeeding story you would like to share as part of the series please get in touch with me at mypetitcanard@hotmail.com or on Twitter. I’d love to help you share your #BreastfeedingStories.

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  1. April 19, 2016 / 12:17 pm

    That’s great that all of your NCT group managed to continue feeding! Al of ours had given up by 4 months for various reasons. It’s funny, also, how sometimes a solution just presents itself, like with the expressed milk. Keep it up, it sounds like you’re doing a fabulous job! šŸ™‚ xxx
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    • April 25, 2016 / 6:34 pm

      Thank you lovely. I can see why – there are so many challenges involved that we aren’t given much advice about. xx

  2. April 22, 2016 / 10:32 am

    I particularly loved the few paragraphs as you acknowledge that everyone is different and things don’t always turn out as you expect šŸ™‚

    • April 25, 2016 / 6:35 pm

      I’m glad – it’s the truth. We might all take different paths, but we’re all mummies and in this crazy journey together! xx

  3. April 25, 2016 / 6:50 am

    Lovely story and I love how she acknowledges that we shouldn’t feel the mummy guilt but just do what is right for us and the baby. So true! A really great post about breastfeeding which is quite inspiring as Fi has managed to overcome some obstacles to carry on breastfeeding! #marvmondays
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    • April 25, 2016 / 6:36 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment hun. It’s definitely true; you’e got to do what is right for you and your little one and no one should be judged for that xx

  4. April 25, 2016 / 8:27 am

    Guilt is a dreadful mother thing and we are terrible for comparing and always wanting to be best and do best for our own. At the end of the day as Mums we all do the best we can and there should be no guilt in that. Breadfeeding is fab if you can master it. #MarvMondays
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    • April 25, 2016 / 6:36 pm

      There shouldn’t be any guilt, you’re quite right. I agree, all you can do is your best xx

  5. April 25, 2016 / 5:41 pm

    Wow I had a similar experience – we get so caught up in feeding that we forget the other options don’t we! With my first, my milk didn’t come in until day 5 so abt was starving! I HAD to give formula as my colostrum just wasn’t cutting it. Thankfully it actually meant I could express and give a bottle no problem and we had no issues going between bottle and breast. It helped my breastfeed much longer than I would’ve done otherwise. Well done you for still feeding at 3 months! #marvmondays

    • April 25, 2016 / 6:37 pm

      Thank you lovely. It is tricky isn’t it yet people make it sound so easy! Good on you – thank god for expressing! xx

  6. April 26, 2016 / 11:47 am

    Lovely and HONEST post and I love it that you have painted a very real picture of breastfeeding. It is hard work and it can be very painful and it is good to know that before the baby comes so that you don’t go in thinking everything is going to be OK. It is okay to have a back up plan – like expressing and giving a bottle. But it is a very rewarding and beautiful experience as well. #MarvMondays
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    • April 28, 2016 / 7:09 am

      So true hun – it is bloody hard work! A back up plan gave me the reassurance I needed and it really helped us so we could continue breastfeeding šŸ™‚ xx

  7. May 6, 2016 / 9:24 pm

    Such a brilliant post. I remember that NCT class and coming home afterwards and thinking that breast feeding was going to be easy and was just a matter of the baby latching once they were born. Our reality was very different for various reasons. And after three weeks I gave up even attempting to breast feed. But I did express 6/7 times every 24 hours – so Little Miss H was still getting breast milk and Mr H could help with feeds. I think it would be much better for the NCT classes to take you through all the options. It was only after breaking down in tears and begging a midwife to take my child because i couldn’t and didn’t know how to feed her that I really got told how to express. Silly. As it is such an easy thing and makes such a huge difference. Thanks so much for sharing your story. #MarvMondays – sorry it has taken me so long to comment. Hugs Lucy xxxx
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