#BreastfeedingStories Featuring Wife Mama Life

#BreastfeedingStories

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Welcome back to the #BreastfeedingStories guest post series, an opportunity to bring together stories from other mums who have breastfeeding experiences that they would like to share.

This weeks guest post features Debs from Wife Mama Life who shares her story about breastfeeding her son until her was two, and how they achieved it by setting themselves small goals taking it day by day and month by month to get there.

Early on in my pregnancy, a decision my husband and I made together was that I would like to try to breastfeed our little bundle.  It was important to me that he supported breastfeeding as I would undoubtedly need his help,  and I wanted him to feel involved. I was anxious about feeding. How would I know if my baby was getting enough milk, would it hurt,  and how would I feel about breastfeeding in public? Actually, the thought of breastfeeding in public worried me the most. At 32 weeks I went to a breastfeeding antenatal class. It was a friendly group and the support from the midwives and mums was fantastic. I left feeling reassured, informed and determined that I really wanted to succeed for my baby and myself.

My breasts grew quite significantly, much to my husband’s delight. I went to get measured a few times for the not-so-flattering maternity bras. I was paranoid about underwired bras as I read that they could block your milk ducts. Later on in pregnancy and post natal, breastpads were definitely my friends.

After a difficult labour we finally met our beautiful 9lb baby boy. We had skin to skin contact, which I would love to say I remember clearly, but it was all hazy. When all had settled down and the room seemed more peaceful, the midwives asked if I wanted to feed my baby. I was exhausted, but wanted to try, so the midwives gently helped until he managed to latch on. It was all a bit clumsy,  but after several attempts we got there! It was the most wonderful, strange feeling. My baby only had a little feed and nodded off.. something I discovered he loved to do!

The following days were very tiring and emotional. I was recovering from a long labour and getting used to this hungry little person that needed me and my breasts regularly, especially throughout the night. I  had to use the nurse-call button to ask the midwives for assistance  at 2am  as my baby just wasn’t settling. As soon as he fed, he almost immediately wanted more.  I thought I must have been doing something wrong. I knew that breastfed babies weren’t full for long, but I wasn’t quite prepared for how often he wanted to feed.  It turned out that he wasn’t latching on properly and I then had engorged breasts and bruised nipples. Ouch!  Consequently he wasn’t getting enough milk and therefore was too tired to feed well.

Once home we had breastfeeding support numbers and of course were visited by the midwives. Unfortunately my baby boy lost more weight than he should have.  I felt that I had failed my baby and I was devastated! We had some ready made formula, just in case things didn’t work out.  We used this to top up as well as breastfeeding and a combination of frozen expressed and “freshly squeezed” milk.  It also meant that my husband could be involved. My baby was weighed again 24 hours later and had gained weight. From there we didn’t look back and it really helped to write down the times of his feeds and note which side he fed from as it was easy to forget.

One of our first experiences of breastfeeding in public was at Tatton Park.  We were on a walk when feeding time came. We parked the pram under a big tree, I covered myself with a cloth and fed my baby in the shade in a gentle breeze.  It felt very earth-motherly. The wind actually blew the cloth off, but I didn’t mind too much. I decided that I was going to be confident feeding when out and about, after all, I was only providing for my baby and I would still use my tops or muslins to cover us.

There have been really tough times with blocked ducts (I can recommend to keep feeding and warm showers), sore nipples ( I can recommend Lansinoh cream) and broken breast pumps, (one of which was due to sleepy mummy putting the electronic bit in the sink!) bitten nipples, and times at stupid o’clock when I didn’t know whether I could carry on.  But we did. We took it in stages, setting ourselves small goals like first wanting to get through the first days, then to 3 months, then to 6 months and then we carried on as it worked for us.

There is so much more I could write about our journey.  We are still feeding, albeit starting to wean off.  If my baby is a bit unwell or is teething and really wants comfort from me he will sneak in extra feeds.  Breastfeeding might not be everyone’s choice of how to feed, but for me it has been a wonderful, special way for us to bond. It still makes me smile when he’s snuggled into me and his little hand holds onto my thumb, just like he did as a newborn.

If you’ve got a breastfeeding story you would like to share as part of the series please get in touch with me at mypetitcanard@hotmail.com or on Twitter. I’d love to help you share your #BreastfeedingStories.

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14 Comments

  1. May 17, 2016 / 7:01 am

    Fabulous! I’d love to share my story. I’m almost 11months in breastfeeding my second. I remember so clearly the toe curling pain, cracked nipples and engorgement in the early days but so glad I persevered! I agree with you, it’s still such a special, calm and bonding experience for us and I will be sad when it’s over! Thanks for sharing X

    • May 17, 2016 / 8:53 pm

      Ouch! That sounds very familiar to my experience too. Once we got past the 6 week mark it was much easier, comfortable and very natural. It takes some perseverance though! I’d love for you to share your story – I’ll be in touch! 🙂

  2. May 23, 2016 / 6:22 am

    This sounds so very much like my story with my youngest. He too wasn’t feeding properly and just slept all day. We took this to mean that he must be content but actually we realise now that he was too tired to eat and not eating was making him more tired. He had an infection too which certainly didn’t help but we were oblivious as he was fine at his first weigh in, but then had dropped weight drastically by his second weigh in at 2 weeks. Once we were aware (and I don’t know about you but I still beat myself up when I see pics of him at that age and see that he actually did look quite poorly – how did I not notice that he’d lost weight? I don’t think I’ll ever forget that feeling – even though I know we were just doing our best.) Anyway, we did exactly what you did and topped him up with formula a bit just for a few days, and like your baby, he started to gain again pretty much straight away. We managed to drop the formula within a few days and with support from our fantastic midwife and then happily breastfed for 10 months. It was definitely touch and go as to whether we would be able to keep going with the breastfeeding though as I just wasn’t prepared for the weight loss, Second time around and I thought I’d got it nailed as my eldest didn’t lose so much as an ounce!?
    Thank you so much for sharing your post. I’ve actually found it really comforting to read that someone else had the same kind of difficulties at first. I’m so pleased that you have since been able to enjoy breastfeeding and found it to be such a lovely experience.

    Dawn x
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  3. May 23, 2016 / 4:06 pm

    A lovely positive story – I am loving this series so much and so glad I got to be a part of it. I am still breastfeeding at 6 months and want to continue. I feel so passionate about it I am becoming a breasfeeding support worker. Well done for sticking at it through the tough times I know how hard it can be. You’ve done amazingly xx #MarvMondays

  4. May 23, 2016 / 5:57 pm

    This brings back memories! Ah, Lanisoh cream is a life saver!
    I wish I breastfed for longer. I made it to 6 months with my youngest. Well done for keeping at it!
    Laura xx
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  5. May 24, 2016 / 11:30 am

    Such a great thing when it works and you can carry on. I was able to carry on till two with my younger 4 as I worked from home here at Coombe Mill by the time they came along. #marvmondays
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  6. May 24, 2016 / 8:11 pm

    I’m currently BF baby no.2 and really enjoying it. It took a while to get it right with my first baby, but this time I knew what I was doing and it was so much easier! He’s 6 months now and I can’t see us stopping any time soon. #MarvMondays (catching up with my commenting a bit late!)

  7. May 27, 2016 / 6:46 am

    This is a really lovely idea for a guest series. It is really nice to hear everyones experiences, good and bad, with breastfeeding. #MarvMondays

    • May 28, 2016 / 9:39 pm

      Thank you, thats so lovely to hear 🙂 Its great to have so many varied stories shared as part of this series.

  8. May 29, 2016 / 3:49 pm

    I also have an up and down experience with breastfeeding but we managed to get through all the difficulties and after the first 3 months everything went well. This was the same for both my girls. I have recently ( a week ago) stopped breastfeeding for good. Sienna has finally stopped breastfeeding during the mornings which was the only feed left for a few months. So now my breastfeeding journey has come to an end. I have a combination of feelings at the moment. From one side I’m glad that is now all finished but for the other hand, I know Sienna will be my last baby so I won’t be able to breastfeed any more so it is a little bit sad too. Lots of emotions at the moment. But overall, I’m so happy to see Sienna growing and starting a new milestone in her life and I’m so looking forward to a new chapter in my life so all is good. 😉 Thanks so much for hosting #marvmondays, 🙂 xx

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