I’ve really wanted to share the little mans first month update for a few days now, maybe even a week or so but life has just been so ridiculously busy and tiring that I’ve been really struggling to find the time and energy to do it all. Since he was born we’ve had multiple important family birthdays and parties including the little lady’s third birthday, as well as two big family weddings on the horizon and our first family holiday abroad to plan for. But I’m glad I have finally been able to capture his first month because I know how quickly you forget all the little details. Its been an amazing whirlwind of a month and I didn’t want to overlook any part of it so here’s what the first month of our lives have looked like since he arrived.
The little man weighed 8lb 30z when he was born and lost just under 1lb during his first week, but it all went back on and more by week three when he weighted 8lb 14lbs at his check. I was really surprised by his birth weight as the little lady weighed 6lbs 14oz when she was born, and whilst Iwas expecting him to be bigger, I was only expecting him to be a little bigger in the 7lb range. Saying that, at 8lbs he doesn’t look or feel particularly bigger than the little lady was as a newborn. Although he has gone through newborn clothes fairly quickly, outgrowing them by his third week so we are now firmly into 0-3 month clothes which feels way too soon, sob!
Breastfeeding has on the whole, been going quite well. Week one was fairly painless and easy going, but week two presented quite a few challenges which we’ve been working through. By the forth week things have definitely started to feel like they are pretty established and most of the issues we had have been resolved. However the little man has started to have regular bouts of cluster feeding, usually late in the evenings between 9pm – 11pm which has been pretty hard going. Even though I know what it is and I know why it’s happening it’s still just as challenging as it was the first time round. Otherwise the little guy is feeding fairly regularly throughout the day, typically every two hours although he will sometimes go a little longer when we are out.
I forgot how much newborns sleep until the little man was born. I really don’t remember the little lady sleeping as much, or as well as he does. But the more I try to cast my mind back to what it was actually like the first time round, the more fuzzy my memories seem to be. We definitely aren’t in any type of routine yet, and I am not trying to force one either. Just like the first time round, I am very much following baby’s lead on eating and sleeping. The midwife asked me what type of routine we were in at his 3 week check and it caught me off guard as I wasnt expecting to be expected to be in some type of routine so I ended up making one up that vaguely reflected his “routine” as it were. That said, he definitely seems to have a loose sleeping pattern for the mornings and evenings, waking at around 6am for his first feed (if you can call it that given he still feeds through the night), going back to sleep until around 9am (ish) then having another feed and sleeping again until 11am (ish). The afternoons are really varied and influenced by what we are doing in the day time, but in the evenings he has a few cluster feeds from around 8pm (ish) and sleeps on and off until 11pm (ish), has a feed and then sleeps, waking roughly two times through the night for feeds. We’ve been using a SnuzPod and Cocoonababy this time round with the little man. Both are amazing at helping him, and us get a decent nights sleep. I know its early days and things can change, but the little guy loves sleeping in them and will easily and quickly drift off in them and stay asleep if put down in them. I have a lot of love for both of these products and really wish they were around when the little lady was a baby. I’ll be writing reviews on these soon so look out for them!
Post Partum Recovery
Recovery feels like it has taken longer the second time round. Almost double the amount of time it took me the first time. Although, I had such a medicalised first labour that I was pumped with all the drugs and didn’t really feel anything at all afterwards for days, maybe even weeks and that was after a forceps delivery and episiotomy! So it might just be that recovery the first time round felt easier and quicker because I had the luxury of not feeling anything, whereas this time round I have felt everything. Every. little. twinge. Which at times has been frustrating because I’ve wanted to get out and about and carry on like normal, but every time I have tried to my body has reminded me that I need to take it easy. So after the first week of physically overdoing it and paying for it, I spent the second and third weeks taking it really easy and listening to my body. Thankfully by the third week I finally started to feel like my normal self which was such a relief.
This time we’re out and about so much quicker than when we had the little lady. I’m pretty sure that we didn’t venture very far from home for the first six weeks, paranoid about her needing her first vaccinations before we properly exposed her to the world. This time round life seems to have continued pretty much as it was and we have been out and about carrying on with everyday life as if nothing much has changed. The first week of the little mans life saw us as at a family birthday party and shopping in Bluewater, and by week four we were venturing to the London aquarium in central London and Bocketts Farm in Surrey. Everyone says that the second time round you just get on with things and I have to say that has definitely been our experience so far!
The little lady adores the little man and calls him her baby which is really sweet. She loves to kiss him, cuddle him and hold him all the time and has been a great little helper with changing nappies, getting him dressed and giving him baths. Generally she seems to be adjusting quite well to having a sibling, although there have definitely been a few moments. As expected we saw this in the first few days after he arrived when she wanted our attention and got upset or frustrated because we havent been able to immediately give it to her. There have been moments when she has asked me to put the baby down, or when she will ask for something just before I start breastfeeding. There have also been a few moments where she has asked to be taken to the toilet and then not do anything, and very recently she has developed a fear of shadows, the dark and wont go to another room in the house without one of us coming with her. I am hoping that as she adjusts to our new normal these things will stop as quickly as they started. But right now, as frustrating and exhausting as it is, we are trying to be understanding and give her the attention that she needs from us.
The little man’s umbilical cord took a little while to drop off, finally dropping off around day 10 which felt like forever. I hated waking up and seeing it each morning, especially towards the end when it was hanging on by a thread!
The little man had his first bath in the second week and really enjoyed it. He was really chilled out and just let us wash him, which was very different to his sister who cried throughout her first bath. We also let the little lady join him for his first bath which she loved, and was a really nice moment and far easier that I thought it would be.
Most Difficult Moments
The cluster feeding and the night feeds have definitely been the darkest and the most difficult moments so far. Cluster feeding almost broke me the other night. Back to back feeding from 11am – 2am is exhausting work and really pushed me to the edge after a couple of nights of broken sleep, but I managed to push through it and persevere. From experience I know that these moments are only temporary and will get better over time. I just hope that it is days and weeks, not months we’re talking!
Registering the little man in his second week and applying for his first passport were exciting moments, although getting his passport pictures were fairly stressful. Have you ever tried to get a passport picture done for a newborn that can’t support their own head? Not fun at all. Although since trying quite a few people have told us that they’ve used companies that you can send your own pictures off which would have been far easier and a lot less stressful. Good tip for any of you that need to get these done for your little ones in the future!
Predictably time has flown by, the little man has grown quickly and we’ve all fallen in love with him. Its been an amazing and enjoyable first month. Welcome to the world little one..
What did your first month look like with your newborn?