A few weeks ago the nursery spoke to us about the little lady not using her “listening ears”, in other words not doing good listening. Something that we have also been experiencing at home recently too, and whilst its nothing to be particularly concerned about behaviourally it is something that had sent little warning flags up for us. It could of course just be a case of the terrible twos at their peak, but I suspect it may be more likely something to do with the impending arrival of the new baby and the slight shift of focus from her, to her and someone else.
Admittedly I have found the last few months particularly taxing, working and commuting up until I was 37 weeks pregnant. I was constantly exhausted and often found that I didn’t have much energy or patience left by the evenings which meant that the little lady hasn’t got as much of my time and attention as she has been used to over the last few years. Children, I’ve realised are surprisingly observant and I’m pretty sure she has noticed and felt the changes that have started to take place at home and as a result has started testing the boundaries and behaving in a way that will get our attention whenever she wants it.
We know that she is really young and still learning right from wrong, so it was really important to us that we didn’t make too much of a big deal out of it, but that we did sit her down and talk to her about the importance of listening and behaving. We’ve introduced a reward chart and have started to incorporate good listening into our vocabulary, and of course more importantly we are trying to be more patient and give her more of our quality time and attention. But it also got me thinking about more broadly what we’ve done over the last nine months to prepare the little lady for the arrival of a sibling which has also really helped her understand and feel included in all the preparations and fuss.
Explain What Is Happening To Your Toddler
Ever since my bump became a visible bump I’ve talked to the little lady about the baby growing inside my tummy and encouraged her to bond with the baby so that she feels this is as much her baby and sibling as it is ours. She talks to my tummy, rubs it, cuddles it and even kisses and rubs noses with it so I’d like to think that she has already started to develop a life long bond and love for this little one.
Read Books About Having A New Baby To Your Toddler
One of the first things we did when we found out we were pregnant was start talking to the little lady about having a baby and a sibling. It was a whole new concept to explain to her so books were a really useful way of being able to do this in an easy and simple way. The lovely Zoe @
Create Mini Milestones For Them
Growing and having a baby is a long process, especially for a two year old. 9 months probably seems like an eternity for them and not a lot changes during that time other than mummy’s tummy gets bigger and bigger. But there is quite a lot that happens at the end when baby arrives and I’ve wanted to help the little lady understand the order of events through creating mini milestones. So I’ve talked about mummy and daddy going to the hospital as event, her going to stay with family whilst we’re at the hospital and her coming to visit the baby as an event. As we’ve got a really busy summer as a family I’ve also wanted to give her a sense of time and perspective so have talked about us going on holiday as a family after the baby arrives and her starting nursery school in September after we’ve been on holiday.
Get Your Toddler Involved In Getting Ready For Baby
I’ve consciously involved the little lady in the preparations for the new baby as much as possible. From buying new baby clothes to setting up the SnuzPod and packing the hospital bags, I’ve wanted her to feel included in all the preparations and create a little excitement for her too. It’s also helped start to introduce her to the fact that the baby will be sleeping in our room and that mummy and daddy will need to go to hospital to have the baby which is helpful.
Take Your Toddler Out To Buy A Gift For Baby
We’ve havent had to buy too many new things for the baby as we still had most of the bits from when we had the little lady, but the one thing we have had to buy lots of is new clothes which I’ve really enjoyed. I absolutely love buying girl clothes, but boys clothes are a whole new exciting world and I thought it would be lovely for the little lady to be able to pick out some bits and have something to bring to the hospital as a gift for her new sibling. I loved doing this with the little lady, not only because it was really nice to watch her get excited about picking out something herself, but because it is also quite a symbolic way for her to welcome the new baby once he has arrived.
Surprise Your Toddler With A Gift From Baby
I’ve been really aware of how often new things have been bought, gifted or appeared at home suddenly for the baby but not for the little lady and how that may feel for her. At the same time I don’t want to get into the bad habit of feeling like we have to buy or get her something every time we or someone else gets something for the baby because ultimately she needs to learn that this is what will happen sometimes. But what we did think would be nice to do which so many other have done with their little ones when a new sibling has arrived that has worked really well, is gift the older child with a present from the new baby. This is more of a totemic gesture than about the gift itself so I know we don’t need to go overboard with big and expensive gifts.
Let Your Toddler Introduce Baby To Visitors
One of the things that I have been a little bit worried about, is how much attention and excitement there will be around the new baby from family and friends after he arrives. I know that it is only natural, but the last thing that I want is for the little lady to be stood in a corner watching all the people familiar to her coo and make a fuss over the new baby and leave her standing on the sidelines. A suggestion that my sister made that seems like a really nice thing to do, is to allow the little lady to introduce the new baby to visitors at the hospital and at home. That way she still gets to be a little bit at the centre of attention and feel included everything going on. I really like this idea and will try to encourage friends and family to allow her do it when they visit if they can.
So these are the things that we have done over the last nine months to prepare the little lady for her new sibling. I’d love to hear if there have been other things that you have done to prepare your little ones for new arrivals in your family!