Saying Goodbye To The Dummy..

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Dummy’s. We had planned to get rid of the little lady’s one just before she turned two. Then her birthday came and went, and yet the dummy was still there. We’ll get rid of it just after she turns two the husband and I said to each other non commitedly shortly after her birthday. In all honestly, as much as we both disliked it, we were fairly laissez faire about it all. Until this weekend when the little lady returned from her play date come sleepover at my sister in laws, sans dummy. She had started something, and well, it kind of made sense for us to continue down that path.

So here we are, day four sans dummy. The first few days were hard for us all. Much harder than anticipated. In fact, of all the parenting experiences, obstacles and challenges, it has felt like the hardest so far. It has required nerves of steel to say no, to distract, to remind our little one of all the reasons why she doesn’t need the dummy. It has pulled on my heart strings each time she has asked for it. I hate the way denying and taking away something that used to give her comfort makes me feel. But as each day has passed, she has asked for it a little less and I hope that means it is getting easier for her. I never realised it would be such an emotional journey, but it finally feels like we could be about to turn the corner of no return. Goodbye and good riddance dummy!

What was your experience of saying goodbye to the dummy? Did you find it as hard as I am?

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    • My Petit Canard
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      September 11, 2015 / 9:52 pm

      Thank you, I hope so! Still feeling a little bit of that mummy guilt though!

  1. Rosie @ Little Fish
    September 13, 2015 / 2:27 am

    Well done! You are braver than I am! We still haven’t tackled that one, even though our little one is 2 and a half and we probably should have got rid of it by now. We decided to start by limiting just to sleep time, which was relatively painless. But since the dentist said it is not an issue if he is just having it for sleep and since he sleeps so well, we have just put off taking it away completely! Not sure whether to wait until after potty training now, but I suppose there’s always something isn’t there?! x
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    • My Petit Canard
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      September 13, 2015 / 8:47 am

      Thank you, it doesn’t feel like it! I think we could have easily carried on to two and a half. I think it’s really difficult to decide when is the “right time”. Hopefully you will see an opportunity in the future and go with it like we did rather than having to decide on a specific date and time. Good luck with it whatever you decide to do! Thanks for reading 🙂

    • My Petit Canard
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      September 13, 2015 / 6:57 pm

      It’s difficult! Hopefully it’ll be a lot quicker and easier at three rather than two, good luck with it 🙂

  2. Ruth
    September 14, 2015 / 5:52 am

    My baby has a dummy but my older son never did. I keep thinking I should take it away now while he’s still under one to save all that heartache later… but it’s just easier to let him keep it! Well done, sounds like your doing great!

    • My Petit Canard
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      September 14, 2015 / 6:40 am

      Thanks. I understand that thinking though, we did exactly the same thing. It sounds like you still have plenty of time, I guess just look for the opportunity and take it when it comes!

  3. Ruth
    September 14, 2015 / 5:52 am

    My baby has a dummy but my older son never did. I keep thinking I should take it away now while he’s still under one to save all that heartache later… but it’s just easier to let him keep it! Well done, sounds like your doing great!

  4. September 14, 2015 / 9:09 pm

    We’ve managed to restrict the dummy to bed time unless our boy spots one lying around and then he makes a bee line for it. He seems to have a sixth sense about where they are in the house! He’s 18 months but I really want to aim for no dummy after two. But if it means he won’t sleep I am not so sure! #sundaystars
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    • My Petit Canard
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      September 14, 2015 / 10:49 pm

      Its a tough one. It sounds like he’s doing pretty well if he’s only using it at bedtime though. Surely that’s the first step! You have some time to figure it out though so good luck with whatever you decide to do 🙂

  5. September 17, 2015 / 7:42 pm

    Urgh! You poor things. I was talking to my cousin about this very same thing today. I was advising her to do the Father Christmas thing where you leave it in exchange for your presents. I’ll have to send her here! We didn’t have a dummy problem but R did have a bottle until he was at least 2. It used to really stress me out, but now I can’t even remember how we phased it out! Bizarre, this parenting lark. Good luck with banishing the dummy – I hope this week has gone much easier! Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx
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    • My Petit Canard
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      September 17, 2015 / 9:21 pm

      Hi Hannah! Its so funny, you stress about things then completely forget about them later on. Things always feel so stressful and like such a big deal in the moment dont they! I think we may have just about got pass the dummy thing, its two weeks tomorrow so I suppose we should probably consider that a success! We had the bottle thing too with our little one. Gets me wondering about whats next!

  6. October 10, 2015 / 7:51 pm

    Oh bless you all. That sounds so tough! Little Miss H never liked her dummy, thankfully. She has always preferred a blanket or soft toy as a comforter. I would have hated to go through the process of getting her to give up the dummy. It is always so hard when they are pleading something and can’t fully understand why you won’t give it to them. Hugs Mrs h xxxx #SundaysStars
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  7. October 13, 2015 / 8:43 pm

    Well done on hanging in there. We got rid of Zs after he turned two too and it was really hard. Thankfully I think we cracked it after a good week.

    • My Petit Canard
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      October 13, 2015 / 9:29 pm

      Thanks! It took about that for the little lady to stop asking for it. I felt like such a mean mummy that week and almost caved in a few times, but so glad we held on. Next is getting rid of nappies!

  8. April 27, 2016 / 10:05 am

    It is tough when they want that comfort & it’s no longer there but it does get easier! I imagined giving up the dummy would be horrific which is why I didn’ want to use one and it took me 3 months to give in with my first and let her have one to give us all a little sanity back but I was adamant she would be done by one and I was lucky as she ditched the dummy all by herself just before her first birthday. She had a bad chest infection and she struggled to breathe with her dummy in unforunately and I think it scared her a little as by the time she was better if she found a dummy she would throw it and scream! It was definitely tough not having that extra comfort whilst she was ill though and I remember lots of tear’s from both of us! My youngest is 2 in august and I gave in at day 3 and she is currently still using her dummy! I’m a lot more relaxed this time round, she does seem to be using her dummy a lot less now and I dont intend to buy any more so if she loses it I’ll be toughing it out for a few day’s too but I’m in no rush right now lol xx

  9. July 13, 2016 / 7:15 am

    For months I’ve been saying I need to get Emilie off her dummy but I was too nervous to do it! Then 3 weeks ago I forgot it at a friends house, couldn’t find another one anywhere and told her that the dummy fairies had obviously taken them for new babies! She’s asked for it a few times but I just distracted her and here we are.. 3 weeks later, sans dummy!

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:27 pm

      Well done! Sometimes unplanned and cold turkey is the best way 😉 So glad its been as painfree for you as it was for us! 🙂

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