Mummy Guilt Sucks: 30 Thing I Feel Guilty About

Parenting Guilt Sucks - photo of Ella & LouisMummy guilt is definitely one of the worst things about becoming a parent. There is always something to feel guilty about, it never goes away, and it only amplifies once you have a second child. The other day I was feeling guilty about something pretty ridiculous so I thought I’d capture some of the things that I can’t help but feel guilty about, even though I know I really shouldn’t. Have a read and let me know how many of these things mummy guilt or daddy guilt has made you feel bad about!

 

30 Things I Feel Guilty About

#1 Not knowing how many weeks old the second baby is at any point in time.

#2 Not taking the second baby to be weighted as often as I took our first baby.

#3 Not changing the baby’s nappy as often as I should.

#4 Not writing down all the milestones for the second baby like I did with the first time round.

#5 Not taking the second baby to as many baby groups as I took the first baby.

#6 Not keeping track of what time I breastfeed. I mean the baby will tell me when he’s hungry, right?

#7 Feeding my baby food pouches because I’ve forgotten to take the fresh stuff out of the freezer, not meal planned (who does) and ran out of home cooked stuff or am just being plain old lazy.

#8 Taking my eyes off the baby for a minute only for him to face plant the floor/door/cupboard/chair.

#9 Letting the little one raid the snack cupboard after school.

#10 Secretly throwing away some of the little ones art work when she’s not looking.

#11 Secretly throwing away some of the little ones magazines when she’s not looking.

#12 Secretly eating my bar of chocolate in the kitchen when the little ones not looking.

#13 Secretly eating the little ones chocolate in the kitchen when she’s not looking.

#14 Letting the little one sit in front of the tv because its easier sometimes.

#15 Wanting to sit down and have a cup of tea rather than start our forth puzzle in ten minutes.

#16 Asking the little one to play by herself for five minutes.

#17 Telling the little one mummy is coming for ten minutes straight whilst trying to do something else.

#18 Forgetting to look in the little ones book bag after school only to miss a picture/letter/form/new book.

#19 Forgetting to read the new book the little one has brought home from school.

#20 Wishing the little ones would both have a nap so that I can have a break.

#21 Skipping bath time because I really can’t deal with the thought of prolonging bed time any longer.

#22 Counting down the hours till bedtime.

#23 Being that shouty mummy.

#24 Arguing with the husband over whose turn it is to take the three year old to the toilet for the third time that night.

#25 Wanting to go on a date night, date day, to the gym, to the beauticians, on a solo shopping trip, basically ANYWHERE without the little ones in tow.

#26 Having moments of wanting to go back to work to just so that I can have a few moments of peace and quiet without anyone clinging at my leg or shouting my name on repeat like a broken record.

#27 Telling the little one that soft play/the shops/the park is closing when I want to go home and she doesn’t.

#28 Discreetly putting something the little one has asked for in a shop back on the shelf.

#29 Throwing something in the oven for dinner rather than cooking something from scratch every evening.

#30 Staying at home all day rather than taking the littles out somewhere for the day.

Your turn! What crazy stuff has mummy guilt or daddy guilt got you feeling bad about? Share your comments with me below.

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  1. March 12, 2017 / 8:37 am

    Yes to all of these! I had to laugh about secretly eating the kids chocolate! I do that all the time haha!
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  2. March 13, 2017 / 7:20 am

    I don’t think you’re the only one to feel guilty about all those things! I feel guilty when I just need a second so I give the little one some milk just to keep him occupied while I do what I need to do. #marvmondays

  3. March 13, 2017 / 8:06 am

    I don’t think you’re a proper mum if you haven’t hidden in the kitchen eating a secret bar of chocolate, or have counted down the hours until bedtime! Mummy guilt comes with the territory, but we are ALL amazing, so tell the guilt to do one! #MarvMondays

  4. March 13, 2017 / 8:14 am

    I don’t get the guilt. At all. I’ve just read this thinking “I didn’t even do these things with baby 1, should I feel guilty??” I tried to feel a little guilt, but nothing came. I just can’t be arsed! Both kids are happy and healthy, nothing to feel guilty about.

    #marvmondays
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  5. March 13, 2017 / 8:25 am

    Oh mummy guilt! I still have it and mine are teens. didn’t really listen to them as was busy scrolling instagram! didn’t ask how their day was as was too busy commenting on a blog post. Actually blogging is probably one of my biggest mummy guilts as it takes up so much of the time I used to have for them. I try so hard not to do anything blog related once they are home from school though instagram is the exception! We should make a pact not to feel too guilty as it is important to have time for us too – so put plenty of number fifteens in your day! #MarvMondays
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  6. March 13, 2017 / 10:29 am

    Oh goodness, Mum guilt is by far the worst and heaviest of emotions {in my book}. All of these things are SO normal though so don’t be so hard on yourself x

  7. March 13, 2017 / 11:56 am

    I laughed at no.1. It’s so sad but when you have only 1 child, that child takes all your focus but you still have a bit of down time to record stuff like how many weeks exactly when they first sat up etc. When no.2 comes on, you don’t really get down-time and have to split your focus. It’s just life. So is guilt … a part of life.
    #marvmondays

  8. March 13, 2017 / 12:55 pm

    I feel guilty about just about everything. Guilty that I’m sat here now writing this when my little boy is at home with my Mum. It just doesn’t go away and i’m beginning to think that it never will! #MarvMondays
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  9. March 13, 2017 / 1:10 pm

    I have 100s of things I feel guilty about ! It is so hard! xx #MarvMondays

  10. March 13, 2017 / 1:36 pm

    I can agree with all of these when only having one child. Don’t worry at all, and definitely don’t feel guilty. I’m currently enjoying the little one having a 2.5 hour nap (which never happens). Claire x #MarvMondays
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  11. March 13, 2017 / 2:58 pm

    I feel this post so hard. I feel like we inject guilt into our veins. It is almost never ending every since my daughter was born. I was young when I had her and have so many regrets. But the truth of the matter is that we need to stop beating ourselves up. Being a parent is HARD and we need to forgive ourselves for not being perfect. Great post! #MarvMondays

  12. March 13, 2017 / 3:41 pm

    Oh gosh, yes, most of these. Especially the chocolate ones. I’m dreading Easter… not good for the ol’ waistline… #MarvMondays

  13. March 13, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    Secretly binning their pictures etc is vital or there would be no room left in the house! I feel awful about not remembering my younger 2s milestones, (what the heck was Anya’s first word, no idea!) #MarvMondays

  14. March 13, 2017 / 4:34 pm

    Yes to basically all! I wrote a post recently about mum guilt talking to you (like literally hearing voices in my head haha!) It’s usually Mr C hiding in the fridge with Amelia’s chocolate, but I totally hear you on the rest!! #MarvMondays
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  15. March 13, 2017 / 5:10 pm

    I’ve experienced guilt over several of these things. I think that’s just motherhood. #MarvMondays

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:48 pm

      I’d agree, it seems to be part and parcel of motherhood..

  16. March 13, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    These are very familiar! I had twins so I always felt guilty that one was always waiting whilst I was dealing with the other one! I don’t think parental guilt ever goes away you just feel guilty about different things! Thanks for hosting #marvmondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:46 pm

      Wow, I cant even imagine what thats like! I think I’d be exactly the same though, you couldnt help but feel like that in that situation!

  17. March 13, 2017 / 6:57 pm

    Oh yes I think I’ve felt guilty about all these things too. I hare mum guilt, it is so pointless yet all of us get it. I find it is so so much worse now I have 2 kids xx #marvmondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:45 pm

      I agree, it just seems to multiply once you have more babies!

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:44 pm

      Thanks lovely! I agree, I do think we are a little too hard on ourselves sometimes. We’re all doing a pretty amazing job really πŸ™‚

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:43 pm

      I agree, being shouty mummy is the worst but parenting is just so hard, and so tiring sometimes isnt it! I agree though, we are all doing an amazing job doing what is probably the most difficult job in the world. x

  18. March 13, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    I have onlybeen amummy for 6 months and I already have a pretty large guilt list in my head! Especially the pouch feed because I forget to defrost and the using the TV as entertainment!! Another big one for me is the fact that I haven’t filled in her 1st year memory book since she was 2 months old! At least were all in the guilt circle together πŸ™‚ #MarvMondays

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:42 pm

      Its so nice to hear so many other mums say the same thing. Not filling in a memory book for baby number two should have probably been on my list too!

  19. March 13, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I definitely can relate to a lot of these.
    Mummy guilt is hard. I get it really bad if I am ever away from the girls at all.

    πŸ™‚ x

    #MarvMondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:39 pm

      Its like the guilt quadruples if you dare to spend any time away for the little ones, be it for pleasure or work!

  20. March 13, 2017 / 9:12 pm

    Oh my goodness, I am totally the same with almost all of these (except having to deal with 2 kids). You’re in good company with many of these so you don’t have to feel that guilty. I’m not looking forward to the night time toilet runs when we reach that stage of potty training. I know it will usually be me going…. *sigh* #MarvMondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:38 pm

      Oh the night time toilet trips are no fun at all! But it is amazing having them potty trained so focus on the prize πŸ˜‰ Glad to hear that its not just me suffering from major mum (and even dad) guilt on these things!

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:36 pm

      Its terrible isnt it! Although I also have come to realise that it isnt actually doing him any harm so hopefully we’re ok on that one πŸ˜‰

  21. March 13, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Urghhhh I hate the mum guilt. I’m with you on all of these. Just this morning I made Molly a Fruit Salad and then shoved a chocolate bar down my neck in the kitchen while her back was turned. I always feel guilty about how long I have played with her for and if I have spent too much time on Twitter or Facebook.. Or my worst guilty feeling is if I am teaching her everything as I should.. she seems happy and healthy enough though so I guess that’s what counts #marvmondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:36 pm

      Oh dont get me started on the social media guilt. I constantly feel guilty about how much time I spend on it versus how much time I spend playing and interacting with the little ones. Then theres the teaching thing too. Does it ever end?!

  22. March 13, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    Nothing to feel guilty about lovely, we’ve all been there! Thanks for hosting #marvmondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:34 pm

      Thanks lovely, its nice to hear so many others say the same thing x

  23. March 13, 2017 / 9:31 pm

    Can relate to these for sure and number 10 made me chuckle. Always feel so guilty chucking my daughter’s art work but bloody hell how much of it do we really need and dare I say it some pieces are pretty cr.. I mean not my cup of tea! #marvmondays

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:34 pm

      Ha! I have to admit the ones that get sent home and literally have one tiny line on the whole piece of paper go straight into the recycling! Yes we’re their parents and love their little bits of artwork, but we dont want every single piece of it πŸ˜‰

  24. March 13, 2017 / 11:19 pm

    I think I nooses in agreement to each one of these. My current mummy guilt is not spendings as much time with my little one when it comes to reading at home. Following a meh parents evening I am now feeling particularly bad!!! There is just not enough hours in the day. #marvmondays
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    • March 14, 2017 / 9:29 pm

      Oh no, dont! Thats not your fault. That definitely should have been on my list too, I dont read to our little ones at bedtime anywhere as much as I imagined I would before we had children. By the time we get to that point most evenings I just dont have the energy. You definitely arent alone on this one! x

  25. March 14, 2017 / 7:11 am

    Mum guilt is the absolute worst. I feel guilt all day every day, well a large part of it anyway. I don’t know how to not to. That said I think we ALL count down until bed time lol #marvmondays x

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:28 pm

      Theres just always something isnt there! I dont think I remember what not feeling guilty feels like anymore (Lol).

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:27 pm

      Phew, so its not just me that doesnt wash her children every day then! Theres nothing better than hearing you’re not the only one that chears sometimes πŸ˜‰

  26. March 14, 2017 / 2:46 pm

    This is all so familiar!! I’m reassured to read it’s not just me that does/thinks these things and feels guilty about them. I’m about to have my second child any day now and I’m already feeling guilty about not being able to give as much attention/do same groups etc and their not even here yet! #marvmondays

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:25 pm

      This is the best thing about blogging isnt it, when you realise that you arent alone in your thoughts and experiences. Its extra tricky with two, the mum guilt doubles, but I think all the benefits of having two outweights all the things you feel guilty about. Good luck with baby number two, I so wish I could go back to the beginning again πŸ™‚

    • March 14, 2017 / 9:21 pm

      I so love that you have written a post on this too, I’m definitely going to have a read πŸ™‚ I think theres nothing we can do to avoid it, its part and parcel of becomming a mum (I think!).

  27. March 14, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Every single one hun! I wouldn’t worry. Trust me that second born is not missing out – I’m going to blog about it one of these days. We may be lazier BUT I am so much more relaxed and have spent more time lazing about cuddling my second girlie i don’t worry about all the small stuff. A bit of poo on her vest…pah! Life is too short. You do a great job xx Thanks for hosting x

  28. March 15, 2017 / 1:31 pm

    I was having a really bad bout of PND last week so took a day off work but didnt tell the MIL so Ben was looked after all day as usually whilst i enjoyed a day off watching tele alone and felt like me pre-baby… feel guilty about it… but i also dont so then i feel more guilty haha.
    I think its natural as a parent to feel guilty about everything we do or dont do. Wish they tell you that in sex ed!! #marvmondays

  29. March 15, 2017 / 10:34 pm

    Yep! I do all of these, but it’s ok as the kids are still fed, happy and i’m still just about sane #globalblogging

  30. March 16, 2017 / 9:35 am

    Yes! I feel so guilty about not playing with Tyler as much as I used to, there’s just no time and too much to do – wah! I also have fleeting thoughts about missing being at work (although I hated going to work at the time!)
    And lol at #1 – if you’re ever unsure of baby’s age in weeks, just look on my Instragram, I have the age written everyday! Good thing our babies are the same age, this week they are 37 weeks πŸ˜‰ xx
    #MarvMondays
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  31. March 16, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    hahah love this! We totally eat the chocolate and sometimes want to skip bathtime so bed time is here quicker! hehe!!! Thanks for making me laugh! #MarvMondays
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  32. March 17, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Yes, yes and yes!!!! Oh my… I nodded my head all the way through! Especially those darn library books they bring back from school. On top of the reading book and the bedtime story they all fight over choosing… Give a mama a break πŸ™‚ I can’t remember when last I weighed any of my kids, i’m just trying to survive their dental appointments at the moment. πŸ™‚ Great list!!! Thanks for sharing with at #globalblogging

  33. March 17, 2017 / 9:50 pm

    Oh my gosh, I feel guilty about all of these things all the time. I have definitely done the skipping bath time, relying pouches and eating my child’s chocolate. Totally guilty. Brilliant post lovely. Hugs Lucy xxxx Thanks for hosting #MarvMondays
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  34. March 18, 2017 / 7:12 am

    Such a great post! I feel so much guilt this time around, the same as you really-Evie doesn’t get the same attention, I went to groups everyday with Amelie, I didn’t even think about when the wean her… The list goes on! But… She’s happy and so is Amelje so I think that’s the most important thing. X #marvmondays
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  35. March 18, 2017 / 5:11 pm

    I think part of being a mom is writhing with guilt in the slow, quiet moments. Of course, you have to have slow and quiet moments… I don’t know about dads because we are a two momma household, but we both feel guilty, usually over differing things. So we keep all our bases covered. For me personally, it’s about working and providing…or not providing enough and working too much. Oy, we’re a guilty mess either way. #marvmondays xo
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  36. March 19, 2017 / 7:10 am

    I have done every single one of these! Nothing to feel guilty about, they’re just facts of life πŸ™‚
    By the way, that photo of your two is ruddy adorbs.
    (linking in with #MarvMondays really late because I’m rubbish)
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  37. March 19, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    I was nodding along with your list, and as you can see you are definitely not alone with this one! I have to admit to the chocolate one. I don’t tend to eat her choccy, but I do put it out of sight and then throw it away after a while when it’s been forgotten about. Thanks so much for sharing with the #DreamTeam xx
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