Birth Story Two: Part 2

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This is part two of our second birth story. If you missed it yesterday you can read part one of our birth story here. If you’d also like to read our first birth story which was a very different experience, then you can read that here too. If you’re all caught up, read on to see what happened next.

 

We Made It..

When we eventually found the ward we were buzzed straight in and met by a midwife called Debbie, the same midwife that I had spoken to over the phone earlier that morning. She took us straight into one of the birthing suite rooms, took our notes and left us for a couple of minutes to settle in. Our room was one of the smaller birthing suite rooms that didn’t have a pool and I had my mind set on having a water birth if we could. When Debbie came back I immediately asked her whether we would be able to use of the birthing pools and felt elated when she said that we could and shouted out to one of the other midwives to start filling the pool for us.

But that feeling of happiness was short lived after Debbie examined my waters and reported that I had suspicious meconium. Small traces of meconium in my waters that could indicate the baby was distressed. My heart sank and I asked whether she was certain that we couldn’t still use the pool, but she was adamant. Using the pool would mean that she wouldn’t be able to see any changes to the colours of my waters if they changed further. Anxiety began to set in as I started to get a sense of deja vu because a similar thing happened during my first labour and it felt like it was happening all over again. I also hadn’t realised it, but I’d been focusing on getting into the birthing pool to help me get through the contractions and suddenly felt like a crutch had been taken away and I wouldn’t be able to get through the rest of the labour.

Debbie reassured me that I would be fine and encouraged me to get changed and get as comfortable as I could. She set up a small sofa type bed for me to use and I managed to find a position that helped me work through each of the contractions. At this stage I hadn’t had any physical examinations and Debbie suggested holding off for another 30 or so minutes to see how I progressed as I was apparently getting quite “pushy” as she put it.

 

Something To Take The Edge Off..

The contractions had really started to step up, coming closer and closer together and I felt like I needed something to take the edge off them so I asked Debbie for some gas and air. Whilst she got this ready the husband put on some music and did a really good job of rubbing my lower back through each contraction. I started to use the gas and air unsure of whether it was actually doing anything for the first few contractions, only realising it was when I noticed that I felt spaced out, sleepy and couldn’t keep my eyes open between contractions. At some stage I started to feel nauseous and threw up really suddenly across the chair and profusely apologised to Debbie for doing so. She was great and batted away my apologies, discreetly cleaning up around me.

After getting to the stage where my body was naturally starting to push a little at the end of contractions Debbie examined me and confirmed that I was 6cm dilated, but that there was quite a lot of cervix still in the way which was preventing baby’s head from coming down. She suggested manually trying to massage and move it away which I agreed to. Anything to move things along. The cervical massages were excruciating and just heightened the sensation of the contractions, even with gas and air, but at some point Debbie managed to massage most of it away and things really started to progress.

However, baby had apparently started to turn so Debbie encouraged me to move into another position on a birthing stool to encourage baby to turn back to the right position. Moving into any position other than my default position over the chair was very difficult and uncomfortable, but I didn’t need to stay on the stool for very long before he started to turn back around and Debbie was happy for me to start pushing.

We moved to the floor and after a little bit of pushing Debbie told me that baby could be out with two good pushes which was all I needed to hear. However, she also warned me that I needed to be really careful and listen to her telling me when to push and not to push so that I didn’t re-open my previous episiotomy scar. It was really difficult, but I really focused, used my breathing and managed to follow her exact instructions.

 

Welcome To The World..

Our little boy was born just before 2pm, all 8lbs 3ozs of him. I was a little shell shocked by the fact that I had actually done it and initially declined when Debbie asked me if I wanted to lift him up through my legs although did eventually. At some point we made it back onto the bed and the husband got to cut the cord whilst baby and I had skin to skin, something neither of us got to do the first time round with the little lady as she was delivered in theatre. Baby was handed to daddy for some cuddles whilst Debbie helped me deliver the placenta and then checked me over. Amazingly I didn’t tear or have any grazes, but the episiotomy scar had started to open a little and she suggested a couple of stitches to be on the safe side.

I felt exhausted and couldn’t help but drift in and out of sleep whilst the newborn and other final checks were done around me. After what felt like no time, but according to the husband was at least an hour, Debbie finished all her checks and brought me a tea to rouse me. After that and what felt like the best shower I’ve had in my life, baby and I had our first breastfeed and shortly after the little lady came to join us before we were discharged and allowed to go home and spend our first night at home as a family of four..

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  1. July 4, 2016 / 6:46 am

    Aww huge congratulations and well done!! Love reading birth stories, amazing how they are all so different. Hope you are all doing well and enjoying lots of cuddles x
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  2. July 4, 2016 / 6:46 am

    Aww huge congratulations and well done!! Love reading birth stories, amazing how they are all so different. Hope you are all doing well and enjoying lots of cuddles x
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    • July 7, 2016 / 10:07 pm

      Thanks lovely, so do I. Its so interesting to read how one persons experience differs from another, and even how one person can have two or three different experiences when it comes to birth! Amazing πŸ™‚

  3. July 4, 2016 / 12:23 pm

    Ahh amazing birth story πŸ™‚ Sounds so painful too ouch ouch ouch! Amazing that all happened in one day and you didn’t have to stay overnight – so lucky. I found the hypnobirthing helped me in the early stages, but not the pushing bit, I thought I was going to die! Must write up my story too, before it becomes a blurry memory. Congratulations again xxx

    • July 7, 2016 / 10:05 pm

      Thanks lovely. Painful, but just about manageable. I think if it lasted any longer it would have been a real challenge for me to stay so focused and do it all on my own. Hypnobirthing definitely helped this time round! I cant wait to read your birth story too, will be looking out for it πŸ™‚

  4. July 4, 2016 / 12:56 pm

    Ahhh I love birth stories! Sounds like you had a wonderful birth. So pleased for you. Well done Mama! xxxx

    • July 7, 2016 / 10:03 pm

      Thanks lovely, the best I could have hoped for (bar the birthing pool!). So pleased we finally got to experience this πŸ™‚

  5. July 4, 2016 / 5:34 pm

    I love birth stories! So pleased to hear you got the birth you wanted. Congrats on the birth of your boy and well done!:-) x
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    • July 7, 2016 / 10:00 pm

      Thanks lovely, I still cant quite believe it! Such a lovely thing to finally experience. Congrats to you too lovely, I loved reading your birth story too πŸ™‚

    • July 7, 2016 / 9:58 pm

      Thanks lovely, I wanted to capture every.single.detail πŸ˜‰

  6. July 6, 2016 / 12:45 pm

    Huge congratulations! What a beautiful birth story! I too had a much better experience with my second labor, even with induction. I’m hoping for the same with my third! X

    • July 7, 2016 / 9:58 pm

      Thank you, I still cant quite believe that it unfolded and progressed the way that it did. I dont think I could have really asked for much more! Good luck with your third, I hope you get the birth that you are hoping for πŸ™‚

  7. July 11, 2016 / 5:39 am

    You did it! Well done! What a story. I don’t think I ever heard an easy birth seriously… What she asked you to be careful with your episiotomy scar? Insane, I didn’t realise you could break it or something like that?! You’re scaring me now!

    Anyway, you made. Congratulations once more. HE IS GORGEOUS!! #MarvMondays & #KCACOLS
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    • July 13, 2016 / 11:23 pm

      Thanks lovely! Yes, aparently a midwife that I saw today told me that episiotomy scars are like tissue paper?! No one advised me of that when I was pregnant, very scary indeed!

    • July 13, 2016 / 11:22 pm

      It was so lovely to go home on the same day, compared to the first time round when we were kept in for three days which felt like forever!

  8. July 11, 2016 / 10:30 am

    Ahhh well done and congrats, what a fab birth story πŸ™‚ Thanks for hosting #marvmondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 11:18 pm

      Thanks lovely, so pleased that I was completly present and can remember it all. So different to the first time round πŸ™‚

  9. July 11, 2016 / 11:28 am

    Lovely. Congratulations again to your family of four – well done you πŸ™‚ Alison x #MarvMondays

  10. July 11, 2016 / 2:28 pm

    Huge congratulations! What an amazing birth story, so pleased it all went so well for you! #MarvMondays

  11. July 11, 2016 / 2:28 pm

    Lovely birth story, well done! As a midwife myself, it’s especially lovely to read about normal births and positive experiences! #MarvMondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:58 pm

      Thanks lovely. I really didnt believe it was possible right up to the last minute. Its so lovely to finally have a positive view and experience of birth, which a massive part of is down to the fantastic midwife we had πŸ™‚

  12. July 11, 2016 / 2:37 pm

    How lovely! I do love to hear about birth stories as they are so special and meaningful. So gutted you didn’t get the birth pool and totally know what you mean about how you expect one thing and then it throws you if you don’t get it (especially if you had it first time around). I wanted a birth pool both times and didn’t manage it for either of them. I was elated for my second birth when they said I’d be able to do it, only for contractions to suddenly switch to me needing to push at 4cm dilated (like the first one!) and baby was born 50 minutes later. I must say, I did find my second birth much easier and quicker than the first, but didn’t believe it when people told me it would be like that with my second.

    I hope you’re all doing well and have great memories to cherish from this miracle experience. #marvmondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 11:01 pm

      Oh wow, what an unexpected change! Its really hard once you’ve got something in your mind about your birth experience and expectations, although it sounds like you didnt have too long to dwell on it! I wish I got to experience the birthing pool, but so pleased I was able to carry on as I was without it. There were moments when I didnt think I would be able to!

  13. July 11, 2016 / 2:40 pm

    Congratulations! This is a beautiful birth story. Shell shocked is a great way to describe that moment right after the baby is born. I felt that way too. After all the effort and exhaustion your body has just been through, to suddenly be done and holding a newborn baby is a bit of a shock. And so very wonderful! #MarvMondays

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:56 pm

      I thought it was just me and I was a little bit strange for not immediately wanting to hold him! It definitely was a bit of a shock, and for the first hour I was just exhausted although very happy too. All very sureal in the nicest way!

  14. July 11, 2016 / 3:22 pm

    Congratulations! Lovely story. I’m glad you managed to work around not having the pool and your midwife sounded like a diamond. I’m so hoping my second birth it ok too.So happy it worked out so well and you got your gorgeous boy. Great you could go home so soon too!! Thanks for hosting xx #marvmondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:55 pm

      Thanks lovely! Our midwife was absolutely amazing and definitely was a huge part in us having such a positive experience. So pleased our little one is finally here now. Fingers crossed for you and a great birth experience too πŸ™‚ x

  15. July 11, 2016 / 3:39 pm

    Oh wow πŸ™‚ I am so happy for you! It is strange how every labour is different isn’t it. Reading this is getting me so excited to meeting my baby boy πŸ™‚
    Huge congratulations
    x #MarvMondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:53 pm

      Thanks lovely. I think it is amazing how one person can have such different experiences. So pleased second time round was much more positive and happy. Fingers crossed for you now lovely, not long at all to go! πŸ™‚ x

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:52 pm

      Yes, so, so different. Even for one person they can be massively different, as was the case for me. So pleased I can finally share a positive birth story πŸ™‚

  16. July 11, 2016 / 8:29 pm

    Wow huge congratulations and what a fab birth story you are a clever mummy! Thank you so much for sharing such special memories #MarvMondays xx

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:49 pm

      Thanks lovely, so glad that I remember it all so that I can share it this time round. My memories from the first time are very foggy!

  17. July 11, 2016 / 8:31 pm

    Congratulations on the birth of your little boy, I’m glad you had a mostly positive experience and were able to go home the same day with your little family. #marvmondays

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:48 pm

      Thanks, it was definitely a positive experience in comparrison to the first time round! πŸ™‚

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:47 pm

      Thanks, so pleased it went as it did and that he is finally here πŸ™‚

  18. July 11, 2016 / 8:48 pm

    This is amazing to read and so different from your first birth story. You must have been so pleased to have done it all on gas & air? It’s a shame that you didn’t get to use a pool, but I think when you’re in labour all you care about is getting the baby out. Cervical massages, do not sound like fun at all. Thanks for sharing with us, and congratulations. Claire x #MarvMondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:47 pm

      It was such a different experience and pretty much everything I had hoped for. Amazed I did it just on gas and air, although I was open to having more if I felt I needed it. Not sure how I managed to do it without anything else but I did. My midewife was amazing and definitely had a huge part to play in the outcome I think πŸ™‚

  19. July 11, 2016 / 9:40 pm

    Aww massive congratulation. A lovely birth story, it’s a shame you couldn’t use the birthing pool. I wanted to use one as well but couldn’t due to the same reasons as you which wasa shame. Still I’m glad it all went well for you. x #marvmondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:42 pm

      Thanks lovely. I was really gutted about the pool, but otherwise I really couldnt haved hoped for a better second experience. Hopefully you get your birthing pool experience next time round (if you decide to have another!) x

  20. July 11, 2016 / 9:41 pm

    Love your story, you write so well. Congratulations on the birth & glad to hear it went smoother than your first experience. #MarvMondays

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:40 pm

      Thanks lovely, thats so nice of you to say πŸ™‚ Really happy with our second birth experience, its pretty much everything I hoped for.. x

  21. July 12, 2016 / 7:31 am

    Congratulations again! Sounds like you had a lovely birth, and really kept in control. #marvmondays

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:39 pm

      Thanks lovely, so pleased it wasnt a repeat of the first time round. Definitely a good experience this time round πŸ™‚

  22. July 12, 2016 / 11:58 am

    I love birth stories, huge congrats on the little baby boy #MarvMondays
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  23. July 12, 2016 / 1:01 pm

    Wow fantastic! Congratulations! Cervical massage does not sound pleasant, but all worth it when you get your gorgeous little bundle!!! #marvmondays x
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:34 pm

      It really wasnt, but like you said it was definitely worth it πŸ™‚

  24. July 12, 2016 / 2:12 pm

    Congratulations! It sounds like overall everything went well, even if you didn’t manage to have the water birth you were so looking forward too. Welcome the the world little man. #MarvMondays
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    • July 13, 2016 / 10:32 pm

      Thanks Fiona, it went really well and is a really happy and special memory to reflect on. Im so pleased he is finally here πŸ™‚

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:29 pm

      Thanks lovely, it really was. Best I could have hoped for after the first time πŸ™‚

  25. July 13, 2016 / 3:54 pm

    Oh I’m so glad to hear it all went well. Massive congratulations to you and your family. Hope the little man is doing well and you’re all settling in xx #marvmondas

    • July 13, 2016 / 10:35 pm

      Thanks lovely, really pleased he is finally here πŸ™‚

  26. July 14, 2016 / 10:52 am

    Congratulations! So glad to hear it was much more straightforward this time around, and lovely that you managed to get the skin to skin, etc. x #KCACOLS
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  27. July 14, 2016 / 2:08 pm

    I love reading these stories, huge congratulations to you and well done! I have wondered what happens to an episiotomy scar with baby no.2, pleased to hear nothing too awful! I’ve just started blogging and really love your blog – it’s a lovely design. Thank you for sharing this, it’s inspired me to write my own. Up until now I felt too emotional to write it all down! Thanks again for sharing, Hannah x

  28. July 14, 2016 / 2:45 pm

    Congratulations! I am so happy for you and your family! Thanks so much for sharing this, I am due any day and am getting anxious about the birth. I am praying for a safe, healthy delivery with minimal pain- if that exists πŸ™‚ Enjoy your new little one !!! #MarvMondays
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  29. July 15, 2016 / 4:02 pm

    Aww how lovely! I’m glad that this time around you had the chance to have a skin to skin moment just after the birth. It seems like a super quick birth to me and with no complications really. Excellent! Such a beautiful moment. Congratulations again lovely. It is just so nice that you can say that you are a family of 4! Thanks so much for sharing such a precious moment with us at #KCACOLS. I really enjoyed reading your story, πŸ™‚ xx
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  30. July 16, 2016 / 11:08 pm

    Oh honey, I am so so happy for you. I am really glad that you had such a different birth from your first. I also had a very traumatic birth first time around but had the birth I had dreamt of this time. It is an amazing feeling and such a relief. I am so glad that you got to experience this too. Hugs Lucy xxxx
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  31. July 20, 2016 / 8:17 am

    Congratulations and well done lovely! I’m so pleased that you got to experience some of the things that you had to miss first time around. It’s so true that second births are never the same. You must be so proud. Love and hugs to you all xx
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