When Three Become Four..

Family of four

I always thought it was strange how some women can go through the whole experience of labour and then be ready to have another so soon after. Sometimes almost straight away. It always befuddled and bewildered me. I know people always say you forget about the pain of labour quickly after (its true by the way), how you’ll be ready for another. But after my labour experience I felt pretty scared and traumatised about the whole thing, so much so that I was seriously considering stopping at one much to my husbands dismay.

But then something changed. Subtly and suddenly. I don’t know when. I don’t know how. I don’t know why. But for the first time since having the little lady, I feel like I can actually consider having another. Having a number two. Extending our little family. Not right now, but perhaps in the future. Who knows when. All I know is that I can suddenly face the prospect of going through it all again. The pregnancy, the labour, the sleepless nights, the tiredness, the confusion, the frustration. All of it. I don’t know if it’s because it’s almost time for me to go back to work and the realisation that this wonderful period of maternity leave is about to end, or if it’s the nostalgia of watching my little lady grow from newborn to infant over the last few months, but somehow I feel ready to consider the possibility that perhaps one day, three will become four..

If you’re reading this post and can relate then I’d love to hear from you about your experiences. Please share your thoughts and comments. It always great to hear from my readers and fellow bloggers!

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  1. March 19, 2014 / 1:39 pm

    I’m so glad you finally feel in that place. It can be a really hard place to find, especially after you’ve had a not so perfect time with your previous birth. Look forward to your 3 becoming 4!

    • May 9, 2014 / 6:44 pm

      It feels like its taken a long time, but I guess on the grand scale 7 months isnt really a long time at all!

  2. March 19, 2014 / 9:28 pm

    I had a textbook pregnancy and birth with LP, a wonderful, relaxed homebirth and I knew that same day that I would, at some point, do it all over again. Now that we’ve had Little Man and I’ve done it all again I know, with certainty, that I will never, ever, do it again. I found the first 6 months so hard this time – The lack of sleep, constant feeds and a toddler to look after too. I couldn’t go through that again for a third time with school runs chucked in as well! x

  3. March 27, 2014 / 7:45 pm

    I can relate, yes. Though I remember saying on the evening that my daughter was born that I could do it all again, I didn’t actually want another that soon! Or indeed for many months afterwards, but then when she turned 2, I felt ready to do it all again. Just one more time, though, so I’m all done now and not expecting that feeling again! Best of luck on your new journey x

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