15 Surprisingly Different Things About Second Pregnancies

15 Surprisingly Different Things About Second Pregnancies

They say no two pregnancies are the same, and I’ve definitely noticed that the second time around.

There are some similarities of course, like first-trimester nausea and fatigue but there are also lots of differences. Not just physically, but in the way that you approach, think and feel about a subsequent pregnancy after having already been through the journey.

So here are some of my reflection on how pregnancy has been different for me the second time around and what I’ve learnt.

15 Ways Second Pregnancies Are Different

1. It will be very different from your first pregnancy in some way, shape or form.

2. You may feel more anxious like I did because you understand more about what is going on, what could go wrong and generally have more of a greater appreciation of pregnancy.

3. You’ll start to show and feel pregnant sooner than you did the first time around. Which might mean you need to dig out the pregnancy wardrobe and essentials quicker second time around!

4. It’s harder and more tiring because there is less downtime, nap time and less you time with a little one in tow already.

5. You’ll forget lots of things about the pregnancy until they happen again. Like these 31 things that every mum to be needs to know about pregnancy.

6. You’ll forget to count all or as many of the pregnancy milestones and do all the things that you did the first time around. Probably because you’re more relaxed and are far too busy to do it all again.

7. The mummy guilt will double because you’ll feel guilty about your first child having to share you with someone else. You’ll feel bad about not obsessing over every little pregnancy milestone and you’ll feel guilty about not doing all the things for baby number two that you did with baby number one.

8. You’ll obsess about your family dynamics changing and whether they will change for the better or worse.

9. You’ll wonder exactly how you are going to juggle everything with two little ones.

10. You’ll worry about whether you will have enough love, affection and attention to go around your expanding little family.

11. You’ll forget to take bump shots, or as many bump shots as you did the first time around.

12. You’ll take a more relaxed approach to birth preparation, relying on what you can remember from your NCT, hypnobirthing or antenatal classes the first time around.

13. The extent of your pregnancy exercise regime will probably be limited to the daily commute and running around after your first child. Unlike the first time around when you managed to squeeze the gym, pregnancy work out videos and pregnancy yoga for good measure.

14. You’ll take a more relaxed approach to your pregnancy diet second time around. You won’t check every single food item on Baby Centre before you consume it, and you definitely won’t obsess about having the right amount of oily fish, iron and vegetables each week.

15. Your second pregnancy will go by really really quickly. Blink and you’ll be in the third trimester!

There seem to be so many differences between first and second pregnancies. Some big, some small, some surprising, some expected.

That said, there are some things that never change. Like the impatience towards the end of a pregnancy and some of the crazy things that you can’t help yourself from doing.

But I think what has been the most surprising for me about this pregnancy is the contradiction of feeling both relaxed and anxious which I never expected.

Whilst this pregnancy has passed me by much quicker, it’s definitely been much more of a journey.

I’m curious to know whether this is typical of second pregnancies so I’d love to hear from others about their experiences first, second or third time around!

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  1. April 10, 2016 / 9:42 am

    Really interesting as we are currently contemplating a second child now that Mia is nearly 3. I imagine that I would do many things differently but hadn’t really thought about the actual pregnancy being different. We had a really good pregnancy with Mia so it would be difficult if we had a not-so-good one a second time round! 🙂


    • April 10, 2016 / 11:15 pm

      Thats always the fear isnt it! If youve had a good pregnancy, or birth, or baby, sleeper etc.. (the list goes on) you worry that you might not be so lucky second time round. Theres definitely some things that Im already thinking that about this time round, but I guess you just have to go with the flow and hope for the best as you often do with little ones 😉

  2. April 10, 2016 / 9:54 am

    They really do seem to be so different. I’ve only got one so can’t compare during my pregnancy we were in the process of finding a house, so living with my parents, at this made me feel super anxious and nervous about the future, luckily my mum/stepdad are very cool so it turned out ok but now we have our family home i know second time around will be so different just having our own space. thanks for sharing #KCACOLS

    • April 10, 2016 / 11:14 pm

      Oh gosh, I can only imagine how much anxiety that would add, although it sounds like it turned out great in the end. We were renting a place when our little lady came along and I was super anxious about the fact that we didnt own and have the security of owning our own place. Since then we’ve bought our own house and I finally feel like I can relax and enjoy the whole experience without that hanging over our heads this time round 🙂

  3. April 10, 2016 / 10:42 am

    You are right it is a totally different experience second time round, and yes all those things you had forgotten about pregnancy come flooding back (not unlike the varicose veins and piles) but the def bonus is that this time you know what is going to happen (mostly). And the stress of dealing with two and will a new baby upset the balance? The truth is its hard but you look back after a few weeks and realise its actually great! #KCAKOLS

    • April 10, 2016 / 11:10 pm

      Oh completely! All the small little things you forget about pregnancy come back slowly but surely. But the comfort is definitely in the familiar and understanding a bit more about pregnancy and what your body is doing. I think I’ve got to the stage now where I really cant wait to meet this new little one and see what our new family dynamic is going to be like 🙂

  4. April 10, 2016 / 12:04 pm

    This makes so much sense, it can’t be the same the second time around, and with one in tow already you just don’t have the time to dedicate to weekly bump photos or special milestones. I can see that increasing all the guilt. I only have the one right now but I can definitely see this ringing true.

    • April 10, 2016 / 11:08 pm

      Its funny, because you know its not going to be the same the second time round, and you know that youre already going to be busy looking after a little one but you just dont realise exactly what that means until it happens! A sign of things to come I think 😉

  5. April 10, 2016 / 4:12 pm

    A few people I know are expecting their second at the moment, and commenting on how different it is to first time around. I’m still committed to sticking with one right now… 🙂

    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday x
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    • April 10, 2016 / 11:06 pm

      Its so different, but I guess not neccesarily in the ways you expect it to be. Its really interesting comparing the two experiences, I’d love to hear what others think/feel about it too 🙂

  6. April 11, 2016 / 5:51 am

    Subsequent pregnancies are never the same as the first. My second was plain sailing apart from sickness until 25 weeks and so my last pregnancy I questioned and worried about every ache and pain but thankfully all ended well! You’re doing an amazing job working so hard and being a mummy and wife too #marvmondays
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  7. April 11, 2016 / 6:00 am

    Your second pregnancy really is very different in the way you approach it and that is down to confidence, having little one to look after and being busy. Once my sickness passed, I would forget i was pregnant until I collapsed on the sofa each night. I would carry Alice around all day long, but in my first pregnancy I wouldn’t even carry a heavy bag. x
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  8. April 11, 2016 / 6:15 am

    This is a really interesting post – lots of things you’ve listed are often brought up when discussing when we’ll have baby no.2 – the hardest thing I think I would have to deal with the second time round is the fatigue, as I really felt it in my first pregnancy, and can’t imagine dealing with that when you have a toddler to look after! #marvmondays

  9. April 11, 2016 / 6:53 am

    I agree on time going quickly second time round – so quick. I think first time round I was counting the days down when second time I just enjoyed being pregnant and didn’t want it finish too quickly. I also started showing so quickly second time round that it was a relief when I could tell people at 12 weeks as I already had a bump! #marvmondays
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  10. April 11, 2016 / 7:12 am

    I can only imagine it’ll be different second time around, especially when you have a little one to keep you occupied! We’re sticking with the one at the moment, will maybe start thinking about the second next year when baby K is nearly three! x #KCACOLS

  11. April 11, 2016 / 8:00 am

    Yes to all of these except the last one for me – my pregnancy with Little B didn’t fly by at all, it felt like the longest nine months of my life because of the two miscarriages I had before him… #marvmondays
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  12. April 11, 2016 / 8:22 am

    ah and this is why I don’t really fancy another! the worry, stress and just being pregnant again. lol re baby centre and looking everything food related up. that was me haha #marvmondays

  13. April 11, 2016 / 8:37 am

    I’ve only had one baby, but my friends with two kids say that they were a lot more relaxed about the pregnancy the second time around – they didn’t worry so much about what they were eating or each little pregnancy niggle. #MarvMondays
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  14. April 11, 2016 / 9:15 am

    Hmm – mummy guilt definitely doubled and yes, I was in third trimester before I knew it with NC. Also the appetite was DISGUSTING! I ate about nine meals a day and not ‘small ones’ as they advocate but huge ones. But we’re allowed, right? 🙂 #MarvMondays
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  15. April 11, 2016 / 10:03 am

    Some of these I can relate too! I’ve been rubbish taking my Vitamin D this time around and it is totally flying! Must admit I’ve kept up with the exercise and I still like the read about each week and the size of the baby. That may be the science nerd in me though! Thanks for hosting xx
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  16. April 11, 2016 / 11:17 am

    So so true! Especially mummy guilt being doubled; I’m so worried about my little man as he doesn’t seem to be looking forward to the new baby, and then I feel guilty that I’m forgetting to think about the new baby too, haha, can’t win! Can’t wait to see both our new arrivals though! Kaye xo

  17. April 11, 2016 / 11:29 am

    Wow! This has given me a completely different look on it. I had imagined that it would be less stressful because yo know what is happening. I like the fact that it goes quickly though! #MarvMondays

  18. April 11, 2016 / 12:01 pm

    Good luck and hope it’s all going well as you’re preparing for maternity leave 🙂

  19. April 11, 2016 / 12:31 pm

    I only have the one and remember obsessing over what I couldn’t eat… then it it didn’t’ matter anyway as I had morning sickness (all day) through the whole pregnancy. If I ever had another, I would be hoping it would be different second time around. Interesting read #marvmondays
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  20. April 11, 2016 / 1:27 pm

    I was pretty relaxed both times, but second time around was definitely more tiring as I had my older child to run around after (he was 21 months when his brother was born). I did take my birth prep very seriously second time around because I was planning a VBAC and wanted to give myself the best possible chance of getting the birth I wanted. Second time around I think you definitely obsess about the pregnancy a LOT less, there’s so much less time to think about it (which I’m sure is a good thing).
    Thanks for hosting #marvmondays!

  21. April 11, 2016 / 1:37 pm

    So true – I’m now at 39 weeks and with my 17 month old keeping me busy and working full time, it’s flown over! I can relate to everything you’ve said, especially the milestones point. I got to 38 weeks and realised I hadn’t booked myself in at he hospital to go through my birth plan. Whoops. Also I only just ordered the double buggy and car seat last week. Nursery was prepared about 2 months in advance last time whereas with no. 2 he doesn’t have a room yet – the old Moses basket is however prepped and ready to stay by my bed for the next few months. Just goes to show how little you actually really need…

  22. April 11, 2016 / 1:50 pm

    This is really interesting – I’ve only got the one baby but I definitely would like another in the future and I am always wondering what it will be like second time around. I think a lot of the nice things about the first time won’t be applicable but the hard things will be even harder – fatigue etc, so I am slightly concerned that I will hate it!! Thanks for hosting #MarvMondays.

  23. April 11, 2016 / 2:36 pm

    Hi! Great post. Your last point about the second pregnancy appearing to go by really quickly is comforting. I had a baby 9 months ago and being pregnant seemed to go on forever! #MarvMondays

  24. April 11, 2016 / 2:36 pm

    Hi! Great post. Your last point about the second pregnancy appearing to go by really quickly is comforting. I had a baby 9 months ago and being pregnant seemed to go on forever! #MarvMondays

  25. April 11, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    Having been through three pregnancies, I can certainly agree that none have been the same! One thing doesn’t ever change though and that’s the excitement to meet that new little member of the family hey?
    Not long now Emily!
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  26. April 11, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    You hit it right on the head! I still marvel at how different my second pregnancy was. The biggest thing I remember is that in the week before she was born I told my husband more than once I had changed my mind, I was so anxious about childbirth because I remembered how much fun it was the first time around! #kcacols

  27. April 11, 2016 / 7:42 pm

    I think my biggest fear with a second pregnancy is that I won’t be able to just sleep and relax like I could with my first. We’re not planning another one till the end of the year (maybe) and by then Mini R will be nearly 3 so hopefully he’ll be more inclined to sit and watch a Disney film with his Mummy when she’s feeling tired. #KCACOLS

  28. April 11, 2016 / 7:44 pm

    I can imagine it’s a lot harder when you already have a little one around. It still doesn’t put me off though 😉

    You’re all making me very broody!! xx

  29. April 11, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    You’re totally right. Our second pregnancy was exactly 2 years after my first (we even took the test on the same day – 2nd Jan 2012 and 2nd Jan 2014!) Even though the calendar felt the same at each point in the pregnancy, the pregnancy itself seemed to fly by so quickly, and yes, I barely knew if I was carrying a plum or a watermelon as I just didn’t have time to read and obsess over all of the pregnancy countdown apps second time around.

    Thanks for sharing lovely – and hosting of course. xx

  30. April 11, 2016 / 8:08 pm

    Oh yes there are certainly some very notable differences, 4 and 9 stuck out for me but also 14, infinitely more chilled approach to food second time around! #marvmondays

  31. April 11, 2016 / 10:46 pm

    I’ve only done it once but can imagine that in a lot of ways it’s actually harder the second time around as you don’t have as much time to focus on it all. But on the plus side you know what to expect this time! #marvmondays

  32. April 12, 2016 / 10:57 am

    Totally agree with this! I forgot to take any bump pictures second time round which is a bit sad really, but I was so busy running around after my toddler and worrying about how I would cope with two! Thanks for hosting #MarvMondays xx
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  33. April 13, 2016 / 5:40 am

    Definitely agree with your point on obsessing on family dynamics and practicalities!

    As you say it can swing from being relaxed to terrified sometimes in the space of a breath!


  34. April 13, 2016 / 6:56 pm

    Wow, that’s quite a list! Good luck with your pregnancy. #marvmondays

  35. April 13, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    I’m currently in my second, definitely different for lots of reasons. The biggest one for me is the tiredness with a little one to look after too and the subsequent lack of time for exercise/ rest etc. Don’t think I feel any more relaxed about the niggles though!

  36. April 14, 2016 / 1:58 am

    I think this is a wonderful list! Though I’m nowhere near ready to get pregnant with number 2, I hadn’t really thought of all the ways that pregnancy 2 would be different. I can definitely see the mommy guilt thing, and I was already an anxious one in my first pregnancy! It’s so interesting to see how different pregnancies can be from one another! <3 #KCACOLS
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  37. April 14, 2016 / 5:44 am

    I love this! We hope to have a second baby soon and this is really useful and totally understandable X #marvmondays

  38. April 14, 2016 / 4:48 pm

    Oh yes, I can really relate to your post, mine were so different. I was far more relaxed about the second one and marvelled at the differences as I actually had something to compare it to the second time around!:)

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  39. April 15, 2016 / 5:09 pm

    If I show any earlier than I did the first time round, I won’t even need to get pregnant to look pregant. I swear I had a bump from like 9 weeks with number 1!! Love this list. Don’t worry and put your guilt away!

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  40. April 15, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    I completely agree with all of these!! I felt the exact same way. It was definitely a totally different experience for me too!! But then you realise that all your worries were not necessary at all as things turned out completely fine and you are just so happy to have another beautiful baby in the family!! Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. It is always great to have you here. I hope to see you again on Sunday!! 🙂 xx
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  41. April 15, 2016 / 10:52 pm

    Brilliant post lovely. And I can definitely relate to all of theses. When I was pregnant with Little Miss H I knew all about her development every week from various apps and websites. This time I have no idea whether he is the side of a kumquat or a watermelon. Ha ha! I am also a lot more anxious this time but I think that is due to all our loses. I am now desperate for July to be here but I also feel completely disorganised and need a lot more time. Thanks so much for linking up with #SundayStars. Hugs Lucy xxxx
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  42. April 16, 2016 / 6:09 am

    I definitely agree. I felt guilty the entire time and literally had to be dragged from my son to go to the hospital (but I gave birth the second we got there which was nice and lucky). I think I was a little more relaxed the second time I can’t remember but I do know I forgot to take any bump shots and that really upset me after she was born x

  43. April 16, 2016 / 6:44 am

    Oh yes, I agree with all of these. Especially the mummy guilt about sharing the love between your first and second. I really struggled with this, it kind of ate me away a little. Totally irrational I k ow, but I think it’s just part and parcel of a second or even a consecutive pregnancy, and seems to be the normal. Thanks for linking up with #SundayStars Steph xxx

  44. April 18, 2016 / 8:22 pm

    This is a great list and I agree with every single one of them!! I have struggled a lot more this time round having to run around after Monkey so have definitely had less sleep, less time to relax and I am feeling less prepared lol. Although you are right blink and its gone! Good luck with yours honey and thank you for hosting #MarvMondays
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    • April 18, 2016 / 8:43 pm

      Thanks lovely. It is so much harder second time around. The running around after the little one is definitely exhausting! Reassuring to hear its not just me 🙂

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