They say no two pregnancies are the same, and I’ve definitely noticed that the second time around. There are some similarities of course, like the first trimester nausea and fatigue but there are also lots of differences. Not just physically, but in the way that you approach, think and feel about a subsequent pregnancy after having already been through the journey a first time and birthed a baby.
Reflecting on this recently, I thought it would be nice to share how pregnancy has been different for me the second time round and what I’ve learnt.
15 Ways Second Pregnancies Are Different
1. It will be very different to your first pregnancy in some way, shape or form.
2. You may feel more anxious like I did because you understand more about what is going on, what could go wrong and generally have more of a greater appreciation of pregnancy.
3. You’ll start to show and feel pregnant sooner than you did the first time around. Which might mean you need to dig out the pregnancy wardrobe and essentials quicker second time round!
4. It’s harder and more tiring because there is less down time, nap time and less you time with a little one in tow already.
5. You’ll forget lots of things about pregnancy until they happen again. Like these 31 things that every mum to be needs to know about pregnancy.
6. You’ll forget to count all or as many of the pregnancy milestones and do all the things that you did first time around. Probably because you’re more relaxed and are far too busy to do it all again.
7. The mummy guilt will double because you’ll feel guilty about your first child having to share you with someone else. You’ll feel bad about not obsessing over every little pregnancy milestone and you’ll feel guilty about not doing all the things for baby number two that you did with baby number one.
8. You’ll obsess about your family dynamics changing and whether they will change for the better or worse.
9. You’ll wonder exactly how you are going to juggle everything with two little ones.
10. You’ll worry about whether you will have enough love, affection and attention to go around your expanding little family.
11. You’ll forget to take bump shots, or as many bump shots as you did the first time round.
12. You’ll take a more relaxed approach to birth preparation, relying on what you can remember from your NCT, hypnobirthing or antenatal classes the first time around.
13. The extent of your pregnancy exercise regime will probably be limited to the daily commute and running around after your first child. Unlike the first time around when you managed to squeeze the gym, pregnancy work out videos and pregnancy yoga for good measure.
14. You’ll take a more relaxed approach to your pregnancy diet second time around. You wont check every single food item on Baby Centre before you consume it, and you definitely wont obsess about having the right amount of oily fish, iron and vegetables each week.
15. Your second pregnancy will go by really really quickly. Blink and you’ll be in the third trimester!
There seem to be so many differences between first and second pregnancies. Some big, some small, some surprising, some expected. That said, there are some things that never change. Like the impatience towards the end of a pregnancy and some of the crazy things that you cant help yourself from doing.
But I think what has been the most surprising for me about this pregnancy is the contradiction of feeling both relaxed and anxious which I never expected.
Whilst this pregnancy has passed me by much quicker, its definitely been much more of a journey. I’m curious to know whether this is typical of second pregnancies so I’d love to hear from others about their experiences first, second or third time around!
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