Coaching is one of the greatest discoveries and passions of my life. I swear by it, and whilst it may not be for everyone, for me, it has been the difference for me between success and failure. Between moving forwards and staying still. It has been in short, what has got me to where I am now.
Unfortunately, not everyone is exposed to the benefits of coaching and many confuse it with mentoring. So if you’re considering coaching here’s what you can expect from it and how to decide if you’re ready for it.
You are the driver
It’s easy to assume that the coach is the person that owns and drives the relationship, and you’d be forgiven for thinking that if you do as I expect it is a common misconception. However, it’s actually the client that drives the relationship.
What I mean by that is the client sets the pace, frequency and their goals (with some support from the coach if it’s needed). As long as you can be clear on what it is you want, we will help you figure out how to get there.
It’s not about taking the easy road
I think there are sometimes misconceptions that a coach is someone who gives you all the answers and tells you what to do. When what a good coach actually does is guide and supports you to find the answers and the way forward.
Don’t worry if what you’re looking for is someone to tell you the answers, there is a place for that too and its called mentoring. But coaching is, at its very essence about helping you unlock your full potential so that you can become the best version of yourself, and that takes work.
You’ve got to be ready to do the work
Telling someone who you don’t have an existing relationship with your deepest darkest insecurities, fears, anxieties, hopes and dreams requires a lot of trust.
You’ve got to be willing and ready to take yourself out of your comfort zone and be uncomfortable, vulnerable and completely honest. Yes, coaching is about being supported and guided, but it’s also about being challenged, constructively to get you where you want to be.
It’s being asked the uncomfortable questions, the ones you’ve been avoiding asking yourself for the last 6 months. Coaching doesn’t work unless you bring your whole self to the conversation and that my friends is where the real work, and the magic is.
You’ve got to show up…again, and again and again
Sometimes that’s the hardest part. The only way to make progress and to move forward is by showing up time and time again. Holding yourself accountable, setting boundaries, taking action and checking in at coaching sessions is how you move forward consistently and noticeably. I can’t make you show up, and neither can any other coach out there. Ever heard the saying you can’t lead a horse to water? Well, the same applies here. Progress is important, but showing up is more important. Don’t get inside your own head. All you have to do is show up and your coach will help you do the rest.
So coaching is work, but its the best kind of work. When else do you get the luxury of focusing on where you are, where you want to go and how you are going to get there with someone guiding you every step of the way. All you’ve got to do is take the first step and we’ll help you do the rest.